The year's almost over, and now is the time to think about what you did well in the past twelve months...as well as the other things that didn't quite go the way you planned. The dying time of the year is the traditional time to remember and reflect on that year's triumphs and mishaps, so you can learn from them and strive to do better in the coming year.
Here are the first two of seven steps to making a successful change, and make for an awesomer --yes, we know it's a made-up word -- new year.1. Recognize a growing discomfort with what is, with the status quo.
As a rule, we are never fully satisfied with what we have for long. Once the shine wears off our eyes go back to looking over the fence, wondering what we're probably missing, and checking to see the particular shade of grass on the other side...
It's also ironic, and completely true, that we also tend to stay in uncomfortable situations for far too long.
Lest the two seemingly unrelated ideas confuse you, here's where they connect: We often stay too long in uncomfortable situations because of various reasons, and in an effort to deal with the pain, we look to getting new stuff to 'fix it'.
Only, the new stuff is new only for so long, and the makeshift solution only masks the discomfort, not address it. So, to deal with the dissatisfaction, you keep getting more new stuff ("It didn't work, there must be something wrong, better go get a better thingamawhatzit..."), not seeing to the root cause.